Dear Friends,

Annette Spurr, who is our Media person and also manages our Facebook, sent me a great article that she had written.  Annette is a working mum with 2 boys in Primary School.  What she has written is very relevant and I would like to share it with you as an encouragement and strength as we all negotiate these difficult times.  Thanks Annette.

These school holidays are like none other for many parents around the world.  Camping trips and day trips are cancelled, playdates are off, and there’s not even sport on TV!  If your kids are a little disappointed, or even feeling anxious, you’re not alone.  It’s easy to focus on the negatives right now; we’re being constantly reminded of them every time we check in on social media, or the evening news.  Add to that the fact that tensions are running high and tempers are fraying as we’re all cooped up in our homes together.

It’s up to us as parents to create a different narrative for our kids and to shift their focus, taking advantage of this time to strengthen relationships and teach them resilience.

Here are some ways to build their character through gratitude over the coming weeks.

Start a Gratitude Journal

Get your kids to write down 3 things they’re thankful for each day.  This may take some practise and a little guidance to help them get started.  Ask them “If you woke up tomorrow and you only had the things you felt thankful for today, what would you have?”  Suddenly, they become aware that they woke up in a comfortable bed this morning, they had a hot shower, they had food to eat and family who loves them.  With practice, they’ll find new things to be thankful for every day.

Gratitude Jars

Put a jar or a box on the table for each family member, along with some scrap paper and pencils.  Each day ask everyone to write little ‘gratitude notes’ to each other and put them in their jar.  ‘Thanks for taking the bins out.’  ‘Thanks for helping me build an epic fortress in Minecraft.’  ‘Thanks for shooting hoops with me.’  When we feel seen, our sense of wellbeing increases.  It also builds harmony in the home, when everyone’s deliberately looking for the good in each other.

Build Hope

As a family, write out a list of all the things you were grateful for before the restrictions.  They might even be things you weren’t grateful for, but rather took for granted, until they weren’t there any more… Going to the movies, visiting grandparents, playdates, going to the footy… Make a thorough checklist and then make a commitment to do all these things once they’re available again, ticking them off one by one.  It will give your kids something to look forward to and try not to take them for granted any more as you tick them off, remembering what life was like without them.

Thank the Helpers

NBC’s Fred Rogers famously said: ‘When I was a boy, I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”’

Right now, there’s plenty of distressing content on the news surrounding a certain pandemic, and it’s normal for kids to feel a bit anxious at times like this.  Giving them a ‘heart’ project can help them feel like they’re helping, and it reminds them that there are ‘helpers’ who are there to look after them and keep them safe.  Perhaps they could write a thank you letter to the staff at a nearby hospital or pool their pocket money to buy coffees for your local GPs.  Drop off some baked goods at the police station or draw a picture for a fire fighter.

There’s Always Something to be Thankful For

1 Thessalonians 5:16-19 reminds us to ‘give thanks in everything.’  Everything?  Yes, everything.  Even the hard things.  We’re not asked to give thanks for everything.  That would be mean.  But it’s a promise that no matter what happens, there’s always something to be thankful for.

It means that as parents, we need to watch how we’re talking. Are we constantly complaining about the restrictions in front of our kids? Or expressing our own fears and concerns in their ear shot? This is an opportunity to change our own mindsets, too. We need to remind ourselves and our kids of all the things we have to be thankful for, especially at times like this.

Robert J Burman
Coordinator – Thanks.org.au

 

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One thought on “Teaching Our Kids to Give Thanks in Everything

  1. anne barrett says:

    These are life skills and giving skills you are teaching your children. Being grateful is a big step towards strong mental health. Also being kind and mindfulness are some more. It is my wish that all parents would follow your wonderful ideas and promote positivity, gratefulness and spread loving awareness of others. What a great world we would have.

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